One war veteran who suffered from anxiety and depression asked me what the best way to attack and neutralize anxiety and depression is.
My reply to him was in the same fashion as his e-mail was to me; filled with military terms.
Attacking anxiety and depression needs to be your war. What does this mean? It means that fighting anxiety and depression is a battle in which you need to be a commander in chief and other people around you such as your therapist or counselor should be your adviser and support. No war was ever won without good intelligence support.
To win the war, first you need to prepare well. The better prepared you are the better your chances are to win. First thing you need to have is a therapist or counselor. Second, you need, together with your therapist, to build a network support for yourself. Network support is usually made of family members, friends or someone from your group therapy.
Your therapist or counselor will provide you with all the information you need regarding the appropriate way of attacking anxiety and depression. He or she will also train you how to fight your anxiety and depression, They will be there for you when it gets hard and difficult. When you are wounded your therapist will be there for you, when you are in pain, your counselor will help you get through it.
Anxiety and depression can cause a lot of pain, discomfort and even hopelessness. When this happens, the important thing is to have people that you can count on around you. Those people are your therapist, family members and close friends. Your wife can do a lot, but first she needs to be taught and educated about your disorder and what the appropriate support is for you.
It is very common for family members and friends to unsuccessfully help their loved one that suffers from anxiety and depression no matter how hard they try. The worst thing is not that they are not helping, but the fact that very often they make their loved one even more depressed and anxious. This is because nobody taught them what depressed individual needs. No one taught them what the right way is to behave around a person that is afflicted with anxiety and depression.
In family therapy, your family members and friends can learn everything they need to know about anxiety and depression. They can also learn what the appropriate support is for you and how they should behave in certain situations. It is essential for them to be educated and fully aware of the situation you are in at the time.
As you can see, before attacking anxiety and depression, you need to prepare for them by finding the right professional help (therapist or counselor) and building the support network. Once you have done this, there is only one more thing you need to do before attacking your disorder. That is to take the responsibility for it.
The biggest part of attacking anxiety and depression in the right way, is also taking the responsibility for your condition without feelings of guilt or shame. First there is nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about. Second, those feelings are working for anxiety and depression against you. Responsibility on the other side is welcomed because if you are responsible for something that means that you have the power to change it.
You cannot change your disorder by attacking it if you are not responsible for it and thus have no power over it. Take control, become a commander in chief of your life because it is only you that will be prepared for attacking anxiety and depression and eventually have a chance to win.